Was thinking today a little bit about what I think is a semi-interesting subject: The idea of having a best friend.
I am sure more than a few of you out there might say you actually have a best friend, someone you seem to hang out with the most, someone who “gets” you more than anyone else, and perhaps someone who you never feel uncomfortable around. Ideally a best friend never judges, never gets jealous, and never stabs you in the back.
Why am I bringing all of this up? Simple. I have not had a best friend for a very long time. I have LOADS of friends mind you, just none of them I would call my BEST friend. I sort of long for it though. I miss it.
Back in 1995 I met a guy named Andrew, which may or may not be his real name, and I would probably classify him as the closest thing I have had to a best friend since I was 8 or 9 years old. We went to Vegas together, San Francisco together, we hung out pretty much daily, spent hours at the record store, played Quake online, played our 3DO for hours, etc. We swapped back and forth with the original Resident Evil till we beat that thing, and enjoyed the crap out of it.
I have countless memories with him at movies, dinners, watching bad B movies, throwing fireworks into the pool, etc.
But slowly but surely, we both started having kids, we both seemed to get interested in different things, our value systems evolved in different directions, and in the end, we email or chat now and again, but those days are pretty much gone.
I wonder why? All I want is a dude I can be TOTALLY comfortable around, with no competition or anything dumb like that, see movies, hang at the NickleCade, play the Wii for a couple hours, go to a NBA game occasionally, and just have that best friend bond with.
Any of you have best friends right now? Is what I desire nothing more than a pipe dream? Is it wrong to want this?